My youngest son is Daniel Vanier Flynn. We call him Davey. The “Daniel” is for my father. The “Vanier” is for Jean Vanier, the man who founded L’Arche, who was a friend to the disabled, and who used his reputation for holiness and wisdom to sexually coerce and manipulate at least six women over four decades. My wife, Kate, thinks we should change our son’s name. And now what?